Frequently Asked Questions
If I go to a meeting, will I have to talk?
No one is required to talk at any meeting. We understand how difficult that can be when our grief is so fresh. We do ask that you listen, however.
What happens at a meeting?
Some meetings are simply used to introduce ourselves and share our thoughts and feelings. At other times, chapters have short programs before sharing time. The programs may include a brief guest speaker, viewing a video tape or listening to an audio tape.
My child died in a socially unacceptable way. Will I still be welcome?
Yes. All families who have experienced the death of a child at any age, from any cause, are welcome.
I have babysitting problems. Would it be all right to bring my five year old with me?
While we understand the difficulties of finding child care, we must ask that any children attending with you be old enough to understand the meeting discussions and not be upset by them. We ask that everyone who attends our meetings be 12 or older.
My child was an adult and didn't live at home. Can I still go to a meeting?
Chapter meetings are open to all families who have experienced the death of a child, at any age, from any cause. Regardless of age, we believe our children will always be thought of as just that.....our children.
Can I bring a friend with me?
Of course, you can bring a friend, but we ask that they, as well as all members, respect one another’s privacy. It is important for us to be able to share freely within our group and be sure confidences will be respected.
Religion doesn’t matter to me anymore. Can people at a meeting accept that?
We think you will find TCF members are very tolerant of any views. After the death of a child, many priorities, as well as values, change.
Do I need a reservation before I come to a meeting?
No reservations are needed. Just come whenever you feel up to it.
Is there a charge to attend?
There is never a charge to attend a TCF meeting. Our chapters rely on voluntary donations from members, friends and the community at large.
My husband says he won’t come with me. Can I come alone?
Yes. We all grieve differently and he may not be ready to take part just yet...or ever. And, likewise, many husbands attend meetings without their wives.
I noticed the meeting is held in a church. Do I have to be a member of a church to attend?
TCF has no religious affiliation at all. Chapters meetings are held in a wide variety of locations depending upon what is available in our communities.
My child died seven years ago, and I postponed my grief work. Now it's catching up with me. Is it too late to come now?
We all grieve differently. Many parents don't feel the need of a support group until years after the death of a child. It's all right to come whenever you are ready, whether it's soon after your child's death, months later or years later.